When someone tells us they were just traveling we tend to greet them with a big smile and envious eyes.
Oh, how lovely that must have been. But let us not forget that travels can also come with obligations, insomnia, werk, werk, werk and being away from loved ones. It can be just as hard for those who stay as it is for those who go.
As sexy as dating a jet setter is, being in a relationship with someone who is constantly traveling for work can be challenging and lonely. But if you use that revered emotional intelligence, you can make the best of it. How? — you ask as you reach out for that pint of ice-cream while staring at your empty social calendar.
Think of it as a moment for self-care
It’s easy to get into a routine with your partner. You come home from work, spend time together chatting about the day and get ready for bed during your latest Netflix binge. Being with your S.O. (significant other, newbies) is the best way to relax, but not necessarily is it the most productive. So what now that you have that empty time slot after work? FREEDOM, that’s what. Pencil in that workshop you’ve been meaning to take, schedule in some time with the girls/boys/theys, or dang it — own up to that long-forgotten new year’s resolution and go to the gym!
Practice Yoga outside. High Line, New York City
Call your S.O. when in need, but don’t over do it
You might be tempted to spend endless hours on the phone catching up, or you might experience the exact opposite. You might hear radio silence on the other end and feel little need to reach out. Keeping an open and moderate line of communication is healthy. So send those cute selfies or gifs and little notes throughout the day, but make sure you’re not coming across as needy. No one likes to feel like they’re dating a helicopter parent, and neither do they like to feel like they’re not missed at all.
Never use their travels as emotional blackmail
Most likely your partner hasn’t chosen to spend time away from you out of their own volition. (If that’s the case then you have bigger problems.) So it’s not fair to use that as a way to manipulate or make your partner feel guilty. If the traveling becomes excessive then address it as an honest concern. The jet setter lifestyle has to be something that is understood and approved by all parties.
Your partner is able to discover parts of the world that you’ve never seen, so why not join for a weekend trip? If the flight is too far, what’s holding you back from traveling yourself? Make it a solo trip, a best-friend trip, or a family trip. Just make sure you’re using your time to explore the world too.
Do some solo exploring yourself! Guatape, photo by @mimischorer